Nelson Mandela could have blamed people, and circumstances, after 27 years as a prisoner of the South African government, but he wrote: “As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison.” A remarkable man, with a remarkable message.
What’s seemed to be insurmountable obstacles, has created a stronger and wiser human being, who inspires the world.
When I look back, what do I remember or feel about the past? Was the past mostly abusive or negative, mostly supportive or positive, or perhaps it was “normal”, and down the middle, with splashes of dysfunction here and there? I’m guessing that most fall into the last option, as I do. But no matter, it’s up to me to learn, to grow and then create the life I want.
It’s an empowering realization, when one finally “gets” that they are responsible for the kind of life experience they’re having. The realization that “blaming” others, along with past circumstances is non-productive! When we take responsibility for our life, we free ourselves from bondage; we open the door to new opportunity; we’re free and we have unlimited choices.
Willingly, enthusiastically, we take responsibility, for our life.