Self Talk

I just awoke from a good night’s sleep and stepped out into my courtyard; the air is finally cooler here, in Arizona!  For a minute I listened to the chimes, watched the trees and shrubs dance in rhythm to the wind.  Living in one of the hottest states in the US, I crave Fall!  So, you would think I’d be totally relaxed, after all, it’s Sunday, I’d prefer move in slow motion…

…and yet, I still feel an anxiousness, like I need to get going!  Do you ever find yourself feeling rushed for no clear reason, like a little voice in your head is telling you, “Hurry up, already, we need to get a move on!”  A move on to what?  Honestly, I couldn’t even tell you. 

Through the years I have learned to acknowledge, and even embrace the nagging, or critical inner voice.  Let me briefly introduce you to my inner voices.  My favorite inner voice is, “The Little One”.  She’s my inner child, a creative little girl who likes to get her way!  But there are also more critical voices like, “The Saboteur” (the one that wants to obliterate my dreams) and “Pitiful Pearl” (the one who says “the glass is half empty”).

If I continue to fight these subtle messages, they seem to expand, move and rest heavy on my shoulders…such relentlessness!  A couple of years of therapy in the 70’s, after a failed marriage, I learned to respond silently, but directly to the negative inner rants, saying with tenderness (not frustration), “Yes, I hear you, don’t worry it’ll be fine”…The crazy part was, IT WORKED!  Ah, relief, the wonderful return of stillness.

This technique continues to work for me, giving the inner voice my attention, stopping the resistance, and acknowledging its presence.  Today there’s a term for this, and it’s called “self talk”.  Self talk is a very powerful technique in reestablishing your personal power.

Do you have similar inner voices?  When you believe you have a splendid dream, idea, or plan….and the “voice” booms out at you, “What?  Who do you think you are?  You can’t do that, you’ll fail again!”….try this response:  “I really appreciate your opinion, but I’ll have to get back to you later.”

Deep breath, & a heart-felt, Namasté
Love, Sharon